If you don’t know where you want to go, follow the advice of the Cheshire cat. Try being open to the possibility of any road that may be as good, or even better, than planning — and certainly than taking advice from other people, all of whom will have their own agenda.

Here’s Alice talking with the Cheshire cat in Lewis Carroll’s Alice in Wonderland. Like many of us, when faced with a choice, she has no idea where she ought to be heading.

Alice came to a fork in the road. “Which road do I take?” she asked.”Where do you want to go?” responded the Cheshire cat.”I don’t know,” Alice answered.”Then,” said the cat, “it doesn’t matter.”

“Shouldn’t I listen to advice?”
Of course, but beware. Others may try to set you on a path that they wish they’d taken themselves. Then, how do you know they have your best interests at heart? What seems a good idea to them, may be a bad idea for you. Even those closest to you don’t necessarily know you as well as they think they do. Even you may not know yourself as well as you think you do. Continued